These offenders are distinctive in yet another way: more of them— approximately three quarters—were sexually aroused by pornography than were the members of any other group except the aggressors vs. minors who equaled them. Moreover, about two fifths reported strong or frequent arousal, which puts them within two percentage points of die first ranking aggressors vs. minors. Their unusual responsiveness to noncontact stimuli is certainly associated with their socioeconomic and educational status which is higher than that of any other group. Higher status is generally associated with greater imaginativeness, ability to project, and empathy. Persons from the poorly educated segments of our population we have ordinarily found to be lacking in these attributes and consequently less responsive to noncontact stimuli. Another but seemingly less important variable is what can best be called “sex drive.” The homosexual offenders vs. adults have orgasm With greater frequency than other groups, but since this apparently does not result in a satiation which reduces responsiveness (as in the case of the heterosexual offenders vs. adults) we can postulate a strong motivational force, a strong “sex drive,” which could be expected to render them more responsive to sexual stimuli of all sorts.

While there was nothing unusual about their use of drugs or alcohol their gambling behavior deserves comment. Slightly over three fifths of them had never gambled, which is the largest proportion of non-gamblers recorded. Also they had one of the smallest proportions (under 7 per cent) of individuals who gambled for income rather than for purely social reasons. We suspect that this relative abstention from gambling is specifically related to homosexuality in some as yet unclear fashion. While a strongly homosexual man does seek the company of other men, he is interested primarily in the males rather than in the activity that may have brought them together. Thus, he may frequent bars habitually but drink little, or haunt the beaches where body builders congregate, but never indulge in exercises himself. Similarly, he may seek out groups of gamblers, but merely mingle with them rather than become involved. Furthermore, when men gamble, even in a primarily social way, they are apt to fix their attention on the game and to resent interruptions and distractions. Thus, the gambling situation does not make a good milieu for sexual seduction.

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After the age-period puberty-15, the homosexual offenders vs. children, as well as the other homosexual offenders, always display a comparatively small percentage of their members having premarital heterosexual petting activity within any five-year age-period; the homosexual offenders occupy the lowest three positions in rank-order for the age-periods from sixteen to forty. This trend toward minimal heterosexual activity is not seen in age-period puberty-15 when many members of other sex-offender groups were still inexperienced.

In accumulative incidence, the percentage who had petted by a specified age, the picture is similar. By twelve the future homosexual offenders vs. children occupy a low-middle position in the rank-order; by fourteen they are in a middle position; and by age sixteen and thereafter they are in the lower third, below the control group.

Eight per cent had never petted at all, which puts them third in the “no petting partners” category wherein the other homosexual offenders rank second and fourth. Oddly enough, only 6 per cent, the lowest percentage of any group, had from two to five partners, yet in the next category (six to ten partners) the homosexual offenders vs. children top the list with 22 per cent. In numerically larger categories they rank in a low to low-middle position. The average (median) individual petted with slightly over 16 partners, the fifth smallest number recorded.

The incidences of petting and of petting to orgasm are quite different. The age-specific incidence figures of petting to orgasm are naturally much less than those of petting in general. In relation to other groups the age-specific incidence of petting to orgasm is moderate to low-moderate among these homosexual offenders. The maximum, 21 per cent, was attained in age-period 16-20, after which the proportion declined to 10 per cent in age-period 31-35. The accumulative incidence figures of petting to orgasm are similarly moderate.

The frequencies with which these men reached orgasm in premarital petting are low. The mean frequency is either lowest or next lowest, ranging from 4 to 5 times a year, and the median frequency amounts to no more than 3 or 4 times a year.

Their petting techniques are also somewhat less sophisticated than those of most sex offenders. Eighty per cent, the third lowest percentage, had included genital manipulation in their premarital petting. They had a moderate amount of mouth-genital contact, usually both cunnilingus and fellation, in which respect they exceed the other homosexual offenders.

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In their conscious psychologic response, the incest offenders vs. children are, like all incest offenders, strongly heterosexual: only a tiny 4 per cent reported sexual arousal from thinking of or seeing members of the same sex, and none reported a strong sexual response to these stimuli.

In accumulative incidence, the percentage of individuals with experience by a given age, the incest offenders vs. children always are intermediate: about 24 per cent were experienced by age fourteen and ultimately 45 per. cent by age twenty-six. The percentages are far in excess (often more than double, actually) of those of the other incest offenders. The incest offenders vs. children also had their first post-pubertal homosexual contacts at an earlier average age (16.8 years old) than did the other incest offenders, though a bit later than most other offenders.

In age-specific incidence, the number having homosexual contacts within a given age-period, the single incest offenders vs. children, unlike the other incest offenders, occupy intermediate positions in the rank-orders up to age twenty, with from 18 to 23 per cent being involved. In the following periods, 21-25 and 26-30, they rank second lowest with only 11 per cent. Such minimal involvement seems typical of the other incest offenders as well; in fact none of them had any homosexual contacts between twenty-one and twenty-five. The married offenders present a pattern similar to that of the single men: moderate numbers (6-7 per cent) engaged in homosexual acts in earlier life and then suddenly ceased. In age-period 36-40 all three incest offender groups agree in having none of their constituents with homosexual activity.

The frequency of homosexual contacts per year outside prison makes a similar pattern, the three incest-offender groups having fewer than any others. In fact, they are the only groups with frequencies of less than once a year; of the three, the offenders vs. children had the highest frequency—0.6 per year. This minute quantity is the more striking when one realizes that the control group averaged 3.4 a year and the homosexual groups range from about 30 to 85 a year.

As in the case of the other incest offenders, the proportion of total sexual outlet obtained through homosexual behavior is small, ranging from 1 to 2 per cent, and always less than that of the control group. It is possible to calculate the frequencies of premarital homosexual activity for age-periods puberty-15 and 16-20; small sample size prevents calculating further. In these calculations, whether mean or median, the incest offenders vs. children reveal the lowest frequencies of any group whose frequencies could be calculated: about 3 (median) to 6 (mean) times per year among those with such activity.

Again like the other incest offenders, the incest offenders vs. children had few male sexual partners. Of those with homosexual experience, 42 per cent had only one partner and 50 per cent had two to five partners. Only the three incest-offender groups had no one with over 20 homosexual partners.

The incest offenders vs. children were rather tolerant of male homosexuality and definitely more so than the other incest offenders. This follows the general rule that the more individuals in a group with a given type of behavior, the greater the tolerance expressed by the group concerning that behavior; people naturally do not like to condemn themselves. Forty-nine per cent, a relatively moderate proportion, disapproved and 14 per cent, a slightly larger proportion, appoved. In addition 36 percent were neutral—the third largest proportion recorded.

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While other dull individuals with disorganized lives and inadequate social relationships manage to stumble through life without serious conflict with society, and some can avoid conflict even though they may have become alcoholics, the aggressors vs. children combined dullness, alcoholism, and an asocial attitude into a life style that brought them the distinction of being the most criminal and recidivistic of all the groups under consideration.

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While some sex offenders are happily amoral, like certain carefree characters from Steinbeck’s Cannery Row, the offenders vs. children were usually caught in a conflict between their morals and their behavior. In general they were moralistic and conservative (note how they rate in restraints on premarital coitus and how few had premarital coitus with their future wives) yet most maintained a sexual life normal for their socioeconomic status. This conflict was partly solved by their adopting the double standard and the “good girl vs. prostitute” concept. Many were extremely guilt-ridden as a result of their sexual activity with children (often the offenses required prior consumption of alcohol) and were more prone than most to deny their guilt. Others who could admit their offenses could not face reality wholly, and professed that the children encouraged the behavior. The combination of morality, sometimes intensified by a religious resurgence in prison, and their difficulty in facing unpleasant realities made the offenders vs. children hard to interview. The clinicians also found this same defense an impediment to psychotherapy.

The great majority of the offenders vs. children are not physically dangerous since they did not use force and since they seldom attempted coitus. Moreover, when their record included some other sex offense it was generally one vs. minors, or exhibition. Their nonsexual criminality lacked signs of aggression, usually consisting of breaches of peace, drunkenness, and other minor troubles more indicative of disorganization than hostility.

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These women tend to be very insecure and are often involved in affair after contact needs met. As one woman     explained ‘I require hugs, and in exchange give sex, however, I want to stress often all I really am seeking is for a man to touch me.’

It has been suggested by many women we interviewed, that it is very common from time to time for them to have sex because of the before, during and after body touching involved. Women require intimacy, with physical and emotional intensity, and being held is a sure way to achieve it.

Most men also enjoy touching and being touched. The major difference between men and women here is the smaller number of ‘cuddling addicts’ as Hollender referred to them in the test sample of men compared to women. ‘Men can acknowledge their longing to be held, but its intensity either does not reach the height attained by some women or, if it does, it is not reported.’

Touching and affectionate body contact is necessities for humans. Without touch we shrivel. Body contact needs express the ‘like factor’ we feel towards others. Reach out and touch. You will break down barriers, build rapport, feel good, and if done appropriately and gently, your friend will enjoy the experience.

Begin with the areas around the elbow and the wrist. Never begin with areas too close to the breasts or genitals.

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Nothing ordinary. Nothing small and simple. It just doesn’t work. Forget lots of detail. Clean sweeping lines are in. And shine. Not just lustre. Shine and gloss.

Examples of Dramatic personality types include Cher, Jim Carrey, Naomi Campbell and David Bowie.

Which brings us to the bedroom behaviour of Dramatics. What would you expect? When the bedroom is set up for drama, expect it. It isn’t soap opera stuff based on emotions. This is loud, clear, decisive, perhaps unusual sexual and sensual behaviour. ‘You want what?’ you say. Nothing too ordinary. The Dramatic woman loves to wear black or red lacy lingerie and suspender belts with black stockings.

Foreplay? Yes. ‘But let’s not pussyfoot around. Let’s get on with the sex. Let’s try different positions. Let’s spice up this relationship. Let me show you how.’ Yet underpinning all this is a sense of formality and authority. The Dramatic is confident in bed and out of it. They know it, do it, enjoy it, and move on to the next fascinating episode.

Key words: contrasting elements, strong colours such as black, red and gold, extreme, bold, confident and dominant, flamboyant and sophisticated.

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While they may appear to be soft and vulnerable, Romantics do not like to be taken advantage of and are really quite in charge of their intimate life.

The Romantic look is a somewhat sophisticated and glamorous look where smoothness and sensuality, rather than FURNISHINGS texture, predominate on the surface finish of fabrics and furnishings. Fabrics are sheer, or net, or decorated with a floral design, or maybe even in a luxury fabric such as velvet. Sometimes a mosquito net floats above the bed. Curtains, usually gathered, drape softly, sometimes into a pool on the floor. The curtains are voluptuous and full, never skimpy. Sheets and bed linen are soft and luxurious, sometimes in satin. Doonas are used more than formal bedspreads since they create a softer, more cosy and inviting look. Whatever the bedcover, it is sensual and inviting, sometimes in lace such as broderie anglaise, sometimes in a floral design and nearly always has a frill around the doona cover. When a valance is used, it is gathered quite generously.

Frills and lace always feature somewhere in the Romantic bedroom, even if it is just on the doona or on the pillows or cushions on the bed. And there are extra pillows and cushions.

These are not only for comfort but also as a display of generosity. Romantics are generous in all aspects of their lives. They are not restrained when it comes to true love and romance.

Curves, rather than angles, predominate in the Romantic bedroom. Furniture has curved and rounded lines. The bed may be a four-poster, decorated with soft netting, lace or frills, or an ornate brass bed with curves on it, or simply one with a curved bedhead. Other furniture has curved lines or may be softly draped with a fabric cloth or a detailed table runner. Sometimes sets of drawers, the bedhead or bedside tables have intricate carvings on them. Curved decorative touches in the form of painted finishes such as floral stencils on walls and furniture, perhaps cherubs somewhere or decoupaged items are sometimes evident. The overall look is quite busy and cluttered, both in quantity and design.

Colours are either delicate, soft or understated, in white, pinks, apricot or peach, or in a mixture of pastels or in the deeper more opulent colours of burgundy or maroon. Romantics love to create a soft, cosy and cuddly retreat filled with their sentimental collectibles and they love fresh flowers in the room. There is a little of the Romantic in everybody so touches of it may appear in the other styles as well.

While the Romantic bedroom seems very feminine, there is also a male Romantic look which has some of the elements of this style. Romantic men are often the charming Romeos we meet.

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The male Fantasy bedroom comes from the future or science fiction. It has chrome, silver, grey or white in it and decorative items may be suggestive of outer space and the future. The Star Wars theme is popular mainly with teenage boys, although some young adult males do seem to be fans.

The personality of a Fantasy seeker is a certainly creative one who is obsessively preoccupied with unrealistic goals. There is no one body style. This style has developed because the person has become obsessed with fantasy or is escaping from the ugliness or disappointments of reality. We cannot give a living example of the Fantasy personality since it is often a private world they enter in their bedroom.

In bed you will be impressed with the role-playing and unusual demands. Join in for a ride to another world. In time you may well be annoyed with the tunnel vision of this dreamer unless you also share the fantasy.

Key words: creative, individual, ‘out of this world’, an escape from reality, obsessive.

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The road to seduction for this personality is built on the imagination. Paint exotic mind pictures related to their type of fantasy style. Include their fantasy style in the seduction. They love to experiment during sex, to soar to great heights, although sometimes those heights are unrealistic. They like to remove themselves from day-to-day life. Go along for the ride.

Go to a restaurant that has elements like their fantasy if you can find one. If her bedroom is based on fairies, choose a soft romantic restaurant, with reminiscences of the past. If it has a Star Wars theme, choose a restaurant that has shiny surfaces, with red, grey, black or chrome and stainless steel. If it is heavenly, with lots of moons and stars, choose a restaurant with large windows through which you can see the stars in the night sky. A fantasy based on Hollywood movie icons gives you the option of going to any restaurant whose walls are lined with memorabilia of old movie themes and stars.

Sex for the female Fantasy style can be a gentle sensual experience, or an exotic adventure. They need a partner who is sensitive, caring, playful, trustworthy and free of limitations. The sense of universal connection with everything in their life is often what motivates them.

The male Fantasy personality is usually interested in the future. Of course, Elvis Presley, the rocking rolling 1950s or the Art Deco era may have some followers as well. Sex for these men is always an adventure. Be innovative, straight-forward and introduce elements of their fantasy into the seduction.

Good news: the fantasy adds interesting spice.

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